Difficult Raising Children in the Lord…
Every day my first prayer request is the same. It’s that my daughters, Andrea and Addie, would come to place their trust in Jesus as their Savior and would follow Him all the days of their lives. Fellow parents—I’m sure your heart is the same. We have no greater responsibility than to raise our children in the Lord and teach them the things of God. Beyond our biblically mandated calling, there is nothing more we should hope for our children.
But carrying out this task is not easy. For one, we can’t snap our fingers and it’s all done. I wish at the reading of our first Bible story when my girls were babies, I had completed the task of leading them to the Lord. But that was the start of a long process. Along with it not being quick, we can’t just sign our children up for an activity and they become a Christian like how we are able to turn them into baseball players and ballerinas. And maybe what is more difficult is that all of the teachings and actions that it takes to carry out this task—flies in the face of our culture. It seems everything in this world is against us raising our children in the Lord.
Positive Steps Have Been Made This Summer…
But for many of you—this week, earlier this summer, or in the weeks to come progression has been made in your child’s life in their Godward direction through a mission trip, youth conference, youth camp, VBS, or other summer church activity. How wonderful! Have you stopped and realized this blessing! Your number one responsibility, your greatest hope for them, and the most difficult task has succeeded in some way! Amen!
But parent—Do not squander this opportunity. Do not let your child step back from this recent spiritual growth. Fan the flame!
The task of raising our children in the Lord is hard as we have said. Spiritual growth and commitment can’t be forced. I’m told that in the day of the Puritans, if you went for pastoral counseling, the pastor would tell you to “put yourself in the way of the Lord.” This meant pray, open your Bible, go to church, worship, serve, talk about your faith, etc., and as you put yourself in the way of God He would show up. And often as a parent all we can do is put our kids in the way of the Lord and hopefully He runs over them. Like leaving them in the middle of the road hoping the God-dump-trucks runs them down.
This summer you allowed your child to be in the way of the Lord by sending them on this activity and He ran over them. Your prayers have been answered, please don’t take it lightly. Here are some ways to keep the fire from summer youth camp up.
Prayer is not the last resort in our Christian life, it’s our number one weapon. God can do more in the second He shows up than a lifetime of us busting our butts. Never cease praying for child’s salvation and commitment to Jesus. When you hear a spiritual growth catalyst event for your child announced at your church—start praying for God to move in their life. When you sign them up—pray for God to work in a mighty way. When you sacrificial pay that registration fee—pray that the investment pays off. When they are gone pray your guts out that God will work in them. And when they return keep praying that they would keep the progress they have made.
If you pray, God answers! If you prayed for Him to work in your child’s life at that event—He did. Expect God has worked. Maybe you are just reading this and you haven’t prayed for your child’s summer church activity, don’t worry. Still expect God has worked. Even if you have that stoic teenage boy that only grunts and farts, there is no way that God did not penetrate his heart in some way. Approach the days following the trip as if God has worked in the life of your child.
I have girls who never shut-up so I’m sure getting them to talk will not be a problem, but I know not all kids are talkers, especially, regarding spiritual things. Still ask them about the trip. Hear the physical details, but push for the spiritual details. Our decisions in Christ are not personal, they are so important they should be what we share. This may be new for your family, but take the step to talk about what God has done.
Your child may not even be able to put into words what happened and that is ok, but whatever happened spiritually in their life—celebrate it. Make that the lead when you retell what happened in your kid’s life at camp. Let that be your Facebook post or Tweet. If your child was saved find some way to mark this event as special. Have a special dinner. Do a special activity. Get a commemorative gift. Just dance around the house in excitement.
If your child has rededicated their life or made another commitment—celebrate. Make the celebration bigger than that Science Award or the District Basketball Championship.
God has worked in your child’s life, and just them leaving the mountaintop experience of camp or the mission trip will be discouraging. Everything is stacked against them to keep that spiritual fire, so please do not add anything to quench it. Don’t immediately jump into another activity, you need to savor this spiritual event. Even if there is no getting around the next activity, don’t stop talking about this camp or conference experience. If you are going on a family vacation immediately following the event, still go to church and encourage your child to keep up Quiet Time devotionals. If they have to jump to a ball game or some other activity, consider taking the weekend tournament off and savor this spiritual growth.
Even if you do not understand all that your child experienced or do not believe its “real” be careful what you say. Your child also may have made a commitment to leave certain sins. They probably are not going to be straightforward with that information, but if they try to avoid things—let them. They may not go out Saturday night with their old friends—it’s for a reason, don’t encourage them to do so. They may make a change in music or tv—support it.
This sounds stupid, but as a youth pastor and later a senior pastor I repeatedly saw this. A student would go to camp and trust Jesus as their Savior, but their family would be so busy with activities when they got home that they would not be able to schedule a baptism for months. Or a student would rededicate their life and be on fire, but they wouldn’t even show up to church the next Sunday or next youth night. Do not let time go by between a commitment and follow-up.
The Effort is Worth It…
I hope your child had a mountaintop spiritual experience this summer! What a blessing! Parents, lets help keep them in the way of the Lord.
I want to do something spectacular for the Lord. I want to be used in a mighty way like the biblical heroes before me. I want to preach and have a Day of Pentecost movement follow with thousands trusting the Lord as their Savior. I want to write a book that transforms lives across the country. I want to write a song that touches millions like Chris Tomlin. I want to lead the church I pastor to become a force in our local community and in the world. I want to lead my marriage to be that romance and spiritual force that others would want to pattern their marriages after. I want to raise my children to change the world.
But instead last night at home I played Hungry Hippos, took out the trash, and plunged a stopped-up toilet; and, that afternoon at church I typed up a bulletin and checked to make sure the heat wasn’t left too high.
Called by God. Challenged from Scripture. On fire and wanting to change the world, but doing the monotonous and mundane.
I thought I was alone, but I heard a testimony Sunday that makes me believe many other Christians feel the same way as I do. They want to fight the good fight, but instead are fighting the ho-hum. On Sundays, sermon after sermon and song after song tell us to die to ourselves and give our all to God, but we have to then go home and cook lunch. Then clean-up the dishes. Then mow the yard or do the laundry.
The testimony was from two college students who have their heart set on being vocational missionaries for the International Missionary Board. The couple had spent six months on an international mission trip, and they were reporting back to our church. They shared how they headed to Southeast Asia on fire to share the Gospel and to be used of God to peel back the darkness of that nation. They had trained and prepared. They had prayed and prayed. They had many people supporting them financially. They had far more praying for them.
But they spent their days doing the mundane. Since there was not processed food the meals that normally took fifteen minutes to prepare here in the States turned into two hours or more. They dealt with sickness and spent time bouncing to doctors and translators. There was plumbing issues in their apartment that took them three days to correct. The city they were in at times would lose power for week or more at a time which limited what they could do.
The cultural and language barriers were so difficult to cross that in that six month time period they were only able to share with a few individuals.
They had died to themselves and given their all to God. Their all still couldn’t transcend the daily grind and their all was not much in the wake of the vast lostness they faced. Yet God was pleased and glorified with their obedience and efforts. Although they didn’t get to do the spectacular, ministry was done through their faithfulness in the monotonous.
This revelation shook me to the core — God doesn’t need me. He doesn’t need me accomplishing the remarkable, but He invites me to participate in His work. He is going to do and accomplish His Will, but through His grace He invites us along for the ride. All we have to do is be faithful. All we have to do is the daily grind. All we have to do is the mundane.
Therefore I will be content to be a monotonous missionary.
It was not merely for entertainment that Bunyan expressed a walk with Christ as a pilgrim’s journey, nor was it for Tolkien who illustrated the Christian life with a quest through Middle Earth, neither was that the case for Lewis who captured it with fighting battles alongside a mighty Lion in the land of Narnia. Bunyan, Tolkien, Lewis, and others chose tales of daring adventures because such an adventure is the reality of the Christian life.
I am afraid that only a few would agree with that reality. What about you?
Have you been taught that the Christian walk is an adventure? I hope so.
Have you experienced it for yourself? If not you are missing the fullness of a life in Christ.
As a kid and young teenager I thought Christianity was so booooooorrrring! To me a life following Christ — was enduring a sermon, singing old songs, not having fun, and following rules. It was saying no to fun and avoiding any excitement. I thought following Christ made someone weak, and that it kept someone from experiencing life. Then I got out of the pew and experienced a personal walk with Christ myself. I also began to learn about Christians who have come before us — those who laid down their life and gave everything for the cause of Christ.
Through that I began to find that following Christ was like falling into a rabbit hole, transporting through the back of a wardrobe, and leaving the shire.
Even though I have experienced a bit of the adventure and do believe that a walk with Christ is definitely such a journey I find myself forgetting. I’m afraid that Bunyan’s picture in Pilgrim’s Progress is not the image western Christians have in their mind when they think of Christianity. Even if they do view an adventure to be had it is reserved for someone else.
I am a huge music fan with quite the eclectic taste. The other day my careful “thumbs up” and “thumbs down” on Pandora led me to Ed Sheeran’s “I See Fire”. The song is from the soundtrack to one of the Hobbit movies. “I See Fire” tells of the band of dwarfs and the hobbit, Bilbo Baggins, journeying to reclaim the dwarf homeland. It tells of the dangerous perils and exciting twists. Immediately, I fell in love with the song with lyrics like: “If this is to end in fire then we should all burn together watch the flames climb high into the night,” and “And if we should die tonight then we should all die together raise a glass of wine for the last time.” Check out the song for yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mllXxyHTzfg
The song conjured up images of a band of brothers giving their lives to what they believed in. It drew pictures of danger and excitement.
I instantly thought what if we sang this at church? Minus the parts about the “eye of the mountain” and “Durin’s sons” wouldn’t it be amazing if the collective voice of the church rallied to face the fire together.
Now I doubt our worship leader is going to go for it and my congregation may not be that keen on singing Ed Sheeran, but I wish that we could regularly view our walk with Christ as an adventure. I wish we would see our mission of the Gospel like the quest of the dwarfs and Hobbit to reclaim the Lonely Mountain from the dragon. I wish that as followers of Christ we would see the reality of the exciting life in Him. I wish we would see fire for that is how the Christian life is meant to be lived — an adventure, quest, or journey.
It is important to discover your spiritual gift. Discovering that gift is not an exact science but would be best described as a journey or a process. Here are some ideas to help you find your gift:
Pray: Put your heart in neutral, and pray for God to reveal this to you.
Read Scriptures of Spiritual Gifts:
Examine Your Service:
Ask Trusted Christians:
The Spiritual Gifts as Listed in Scripture:
Administration 1 Corinthians 12:28 – The God-given ability to provide organization within the church. The scriptures often uses this word in reference to a ship’s captain. In the same way, those with the gift of administration pilot the church or ministries within the church by designing action plans and carrying them out efficiently. See Acts 6:1-7, 27:11; Luke 8:2-3; Mark 15:40-41.
Discernment 1 Corinthians 12:10 – The Holy Spirit given ability to discern whether certain behaviors or teachings are of God or come from man or Satan. This gift of discernment is crucial in aiding the church to deal with false doctrines and theologies. Christians with this gift clearly discern between people are self-serving and true servants of God. “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places” ( Ephesians 6:12). Also see Matthew 7:15, 6:21-23; Mark 13:22, 23; 2 Peter 2:1-3, and 1 John 4:1-6.
Evangelism Ephesians 4:11-12. – To declare, announce, proclaim good news—namely the Gospel of Jesus Christ. The people who are blessed with this spiritual gift are able to turn the hearts of men and women to the saving grace of God in Christ Jesus. Typically they speak from their own compelling experiences with Christ and are able to lead many to become born-again followers of Christ. See Acts 8:26-40; Acts 21:8; 2 Timothy 4:11-12.
Exhortation or Encouragement Romans 12:8 – This supernatural ability enables the one so blessed to comfort, strengthen, guide challenge, console, aid and rebuke Christians to endure hardships and remain faithful to Christ and the Word of God. See Acts 14:22; Romans 12:8; 1 Thessalonians 2:11; 1 Timothy 4:13; and Hebrews 10:25.
Faith 1 Corinthians 12:9 – The supernatural trust in God with child-like, unquestioning confidence that God will work-out His purposes in every situation. Such faith stubbornly believes that God is going to intervene even through the circumstances are exceedingly dark and circumstances point to the contrary. They simply and trust God for His chosen outcome. See Acts 5:1-11; 6:5-7; 11:22-24; 1 Corinthians 13:2; Hebrews 11:33-34.
Giving 1 Corinthians 12:8 – The God-given ability to give liberally, generously, cheerfully, and sacrificially of one’s money or possessions for the sake of the body of Christ. It is done quietly, without drawing attention to self, and often live and work to give. Christians with this spiritual gift do not attach strings to their giving, and typically are looking for needs within the church which others may overlook. Such givers may be very well to do, and enjoy the abundant blessings of God. See Luke 6:38; 2 Corinthians 8:1-4; Acts 4:36-37.
Healing 1 Corinthians 12:9 – The gift, through the intervening power of God to miraculously restore physical, mental, moral, or spiritual health to an individual. Such healings often relate directly to the faith of the individual healed. God still uses some Christians as His instruments of healing. It should be noted that it is God who heals. No man or woman has the personal power to heal another. See Isaiah 6:10; Matthew 8: 16-17, 28-33; 13:15; Luke 5:17, 20; 6:19; 7:1-10; 8:42-48; 9:2, 11, 42; John 12:40; Hebrews 12:13; James 5:16, 20; 1 Peter 2:24.
Helps 1 Corinthians 12:28 – The spiritual gift which supernaturally enables a Christian to aid and assist in meeting the needs of another. The giver of helps is compelled to give help and typically feels blessed and finds fulfillment in so doing. Such helps are graciously accepted by the one in need. Helps can be differentiated from the gift of service because those with the gift of helps usually attach themselves to a particular individual, ministry, or cause. They service like one with the gift of service, but have apecific person they assist. Usually have an element of encouragement as well. See Psalm 21:1; Matthew 25:34-40; Luke 8:2-3; Acts 9:36; 20:35; Romans 12:7; 16:1-2; 1 Corinthians 16:15-19.
Knowledge 1 Corinthians 12:8 – The Holy Spirit brings an understanding of and spiritual insight into the Word of God, circumstances, and events which is beyond natural understanding. Such Christians are able to use this Spirit-given understanding to communicate timeless truth of God in a dynamic way and thereby strengthen God’s people in righteousness and commitment to His purposes. See Matthew 10:18-20; Acts 5: 1-11; 17:11; Romans 11:33; 2 Corinthians 2:2-3, 11:6; Ephesians 3:19; Colossians 2:3.
Leadership Romans 12:8 – This person is usually takes charge showing the way, and finding creative, innovative and challenging leadership. Others willingly and happily follow such Christian leaders. They also have the God-given ability to provide a vision for the church, and establish long-range goals and visualize outcomes. Is often skilled in group dynamics and develops effective communication and harmony within the body of Christ. See 1 Timothy 3:4, 5:17; Titus 3:3, 14, and Hebrews 13:17. Also see the book Nehemiah, and scriptures relating to King David.
Mercy Romans 12:8 – Showing great mercy and compassion for those who are in distress. This gift brings with it the ability to empathize to the point of “taking on” the pain and difficulty of the other, whether it is physical, emotional or spiritual. Both the bearer and recipient of this Christ-like mercy experience relief. See Matthew 20:29-34; Mark 9:41; Luke 10:33-35; Acts 9: 36; 11:28-30; 16:33-34; James 12:15-16.
Miracles 1 Corinthians 12:20, 28 – The powerful energy of God works through these gifted Christians. Typically these Christians don’t set out to intentionally work a miracle but are led by the Holy Spirit to do a certain act, and something miraculous occurs. Often miracles occur in answer to prayer. This gift is similar to the gift of faith with the exception of not knowing what is happening or that God is using them as His instruments to accomplish something wonderful. When miracles occur the only possible explanation is God’s divine intervention. See Exodus 17:16; Matthew 8:24-26; Mark 16:14; John 12:1-11; Acts 27:38-44; Acts 3:1-10; 5:9-11, 12-16; 9:32-35; 13:8-11.
MISSIONARY (Apostle) 1 Corinthians 12:28; Ephesians 4:11 – An ambassador, one sent out as an herald of the Lord. This person has the supernatural ability to call non-Christians and build a church or churches. They are every effective in equipping the saints for ministry to the honor and glory of Christ—all through the power the Holy Spirit. May not necessarily be the conventional missionary but rather someone who has a ministry beyond one particular local church. Usually the “apostle” gift will be coupled with encouragement, prophecy, administration, evangelism, teaching, etc. Those with this gift often have an entrepreneurial gift. See Romans 1:1; 1 Corinthians 9:1; 2Corinthians 12:12; Acts 14:14; Romans 16:7; 1 Thessalonians 2:6. MISSIONARY (Apostle): APOSTLE Gk. Apostellō. An apostle is one sent on a mission or with a commission, an ambassador. One who is sent with a message, hence a messenger of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
Pastor (shepherd) Ephesians 4:11-12 – The Greek word for “pastor” is poimen and means “shepherd.” It is a gift which enables the individual to care for, oversee, protect and spiritually nurture, a body of believers. This gift is not limited to “the pastor” but is imparted by God to Christians within the body who are deeply and passionately involved in nurturing groups within the church toward spiritual maturation. Some teachers and leaders of the various ministries of the church have the gift of pastoring. See John 21:16; 10:1-18; Acts 20:28-31; 1 Timothy 3:1-7; and 1 Peter 5:1-5.
Prophecy (preaching) Romans 12:6 – This gift is very dependent on the Word of God and those who have it preach the word with clarity and the empowerment of the Holy Spirit. Christians with this gift are often very articulate in proclaiming the long-standing truths of God’s word through fresh Spirit-led insight and inspiration. When they speak, people hear. The church is built up, and equipped to reach the lost and dying world. See Deuteronomy 18:20-22; Acts 2:14-40; 15:32; 17:30-34; 21:9-11; Romans 12:6; 1 Corinthians 12:10, 28; 14:1-3; Ephesians 4:11-14; 1 Thessalonians 1:5.
Service Romans 12:7 – Christians with this spiritual gift love to serve in any task, menial or profound, and typically do so quietly not wanting recognition from others. They do not seek positions of status or authority, but engage in loving, caring acts which meet the needs of others and bring joy to those they serve. Always alert for what needs to be done they are quick to act, not waiting for someone else to join them or show them what to do. Christians so-gifted often display a stamina which is remarkable, and willingly spend their own money to get the job done. See Matthew 4:11; Mark 1:31; Luke 10:38-41; 22:26-27; 17:8; John 12:2; Acts 6:1; 1 Corinthians 16:15-16.
Teacher Ephesians 4:11 – These Christians radiate enthusiasm and loving devotion to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Foremost in their hearts is the effective communication of God’s gift of salvation and eternal life through faith in Jesus Christ and God’s will for righteous living. Simply stated, when these gifted Christians teach bible truths, people learn and respond to the truth. Believers are strengthened in their faith; unbelievers come to a saving faith in Jesus Christ, and demonstrate their salvation through changed lives. See Acts 18:24-28; Acts 3:1; Romans 12:28; 1 Corinthians 12:28; 2 Timothy 1:13; James 3:1.
Tongues 1 Corinthians 12:10 – The Biblical gift of tongues is first given on Pentecost as noted in Acts 2:1-15. It has to do with the gifted person speaking in a previously unlearned language or languages. These languages were known by others who were present, who clearly received the message of “the wonderful works of God.” Many were amazed and their hearts were prepared for a message preached by the Apostle Peter in which thousands were saved and baptized as seen in Acts 2: 16-41. Obviously tongues were given by God as a sign to unbelievers, Acts 14:22. Paul is concerned that if the whole church speaks with tongues, those who are unbelievers and have come to be informed will think the people of the church are out of their minds, 1 Corinthians 14:23-24. In many churches today, people speak in tongues, but the Apostle Paul notes in 1 Corinthians 14: 1-4 that it is better that a person prophesies, edifies, exhorts and comforts people. The person who speaks in a tongue only edifies himself. In Acts 13: 1 Paul says, “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels….” In Acts 14: 15 he speaks of praying and singing with the spirit. Many people pray in a private prayer language which they have not learned and which they do not understand. Many claim great peace and a sense of closeness with God by praying in this way.
Wisdom 1 Corinthians 12:8 – This spiritual gift enables the believer to give practical applications to both natural and God-given knowledge. They often bring a clear understanding of what to do in daily living and in ministering to others in light of the everlasting truths of God’s word. They often feel compelled to speak their mind in such a way as to jolt other believers into a clear understanding of God’s will and an appropriate response. When these Christians speak people in the church listen because their spiritual insights are profoundly accurate. See Matthew 12: 10, 18-20, 42; Acts 6: 3, 8-10; 1 Corinthians 2:6-13; Colossians 1:18; 3:16; James 1:5; 2 Peter 3:15.
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